The beginning
Since long time I have been questioning the basis of life, why do we born or die? If eventually I have to die then why I do need to born? Is it necessary to complete the life death cycle? Whatever country of society you live most answers to this question will come from religious side. Most commonly used explanation being God sent us to go our job, then the question who is god and why does he bother to do so? if you keep asking such questions you may get some illusive answers, however, beyond a point even your grandmother will say "kid now its time for you to sleep talk to you tomorrow!" There could be many reasons behind why does she wants you to sleep at that point of discussion the reason could be either she does not wants you to you realize that what all she is inculcating to you is a fake thing or she believes that you are too young to understand these subtle things.
Many things we end up doing that we are not suppose to do or we do not understand why we are doing. Such as getting into school and learning different subject the answer is simple and straight forward you need to learn how to live in the civilization where you are born. The basic building block to live in civilization are language, science and the social aspect of it.
Things go good till the point you adhere to the rules written in your society and the biggest point you really enjoy doing so and you are successful, at least by your definition, and have a happy life , by your definition. Why did I mentioned "by definition" as these things are different for everyone. So what if you are left behind? you are neither successful nor happy. And may be due to some reason you are questioning too much and not getting any convincing answers. There could be another case where you likes and dislikes are not aligned with the standards likes/dislikes. This inverse like/dislike condition is well accepted in western democracy, however, still in major part of the world it's not well accepted and at times people do succumb to express their true orientation or opinion.
Beginning of complexity : Life Goals
The society has created its rules for what is good/bad and what is material/real/illusion. As you are born you are always told to have some purpose of your life, however, by far no one seems to have a convincing answer of "purpose of life". The question been bouncing between material goals and illusive goals. What are these ? By theory the material or real things are those that you could achieve and illusion being a set of imagination that you are not able to achieve in your small life span or may be yet to achieve. So the definition of real and illusion is again relative there is no fixed rules to guide it. For a common man becoming president of the country may be illusion or dreaming to be a rich could also be an illusion. However, in fact the the moment you achieve a particular set goal you live it for a moment it becomes reality but on next moment you setup next goal. Hence in practice you attain the reality for a short span of your life and you keep targeting for next goal in your life. Hence in practice what we think as reality or real is not "Real". Its like running behind a carrot tied to your head and you know that you will never get that. So what is purpose of our life? some relationship? is it some goal? our own life? or we are running till death?
Is life is all about transitioning from one illusive state to another? Are we running for water in desert till we die fooled by mirage ?
Relationship : The first illusion
We build up relationships the day we get a secure place in mothers womb. So many people waiting outside the womb to welcome you and establish relationships. It starts from your mother, father, sibling, family members and never ends till you meet you ultimate destiny death! Some may disagree with me on that destiny part but I am convinced that death is our final destiny no matter what you do.
I would call the relationship to be an very illusive thing as its not eternal, yet poets try to show it as eternal, however, it does not survive the death. People forget you after death. Even if you are a great leader your direct relationship does not last for ever rather its your influence and your followers that keeps the flame alive. So for all practical purpose we could say that the relationship is not eternal. Another fact about relationship is that when it is there you can't imagine your life without the relationship, however, when it goes away you adjust yourself accordingly hence relationship is not the one thing for which you are living for because if one relationship dies you establish another.
The most complex form of relationship could be love relationship between a man and women. This Love is one of most complex illusions that a human mind can feel. It is the sweet yet bitter, its soft yet lethal; I will not go into more adjectives as this feeling has already been glamorized by generations of poets and intellects and I may not be able to describe it further. The strange thing about this is whenever you feel it you find something new that you never read or heard of. Even if you feel it multiple times every time feeling will be completely different ,however, some of the symptoms may be the same such as intensity and depth. Some people chose to die for this relationship, however, most manage to cope up with it while alive but still you can only detach yourself from its tangling feeling once you are dead.
The only reality the mystical death
Disclaimer: I do not indent to promote/support suicide or Euthanasia. It's just my opinion and it may not be correct its just a discussion and open for debate if you don't like please comment. By the way Life is beautiful not sure about death.
Death the most common and the ultimate truth of life and perhaps no one seems to love it. If you see the definition of death in Wikipedia you will find that "Death is the permanent termination of the biological functions that sustain a living organism. Phenomena which commonly bring about death include predation, malnutrition, disease, and accidents or intentional trauma resulting in terminal injury". So practically death is more of a biological phenomena. Then why all religions have created so many stories about death? Almost all religion has some or the other story regarding death, and relating sometimes it with rebirth and many other theories those are yet to be proved.
Another question looms in my head is why do we fear death? why can't we fantasize it? If I ask someone about his aim and goal in life I will get lot of answers, however, no one seems to include the real answer! the real goal/aim or our life its death! Why a new life in the world is considered good? We celebrate when someone is born in our life and we mourn if someone is dead, why not the other way? Why you are considered pessimist if you talk positive about death? I find it to be more optimist and mature.
Goodness of death
Death brings so many good things that a new life can never. Death does good for the world, environment and for the person who dies. If an animal dies one death one less population one less consumer and one less polluter and at the same time death brings so much of joy to the person who dies. And if a plant dies it brings food for other plants and animals. It ends all pains and all feelings and it sets you from all remorse, happiness and it takes you to bliss and sense of joy that is never ending. So the question is if something is so good and noble why does it been tagged as unhappy or unwarranted? The answer is society, the family! In human society the death certainly creates a situation of grief among the family/society near to you or who have some way of dependency on you; the dependency need not to be an financial it could be emotional bonding. So all bad theories of death has been created by people who have never died! how could be term something and tell so much about one phenomena that no one in the world has experienced? Such an irony! I could easily co-relate it with definition of God! no one has personally met a god however, we have so many stories about the God! And here comes to best or perhaps the funniest part where two unknown things join! The connection of God with death!
Why do we fear it
The fear for death has been inculcated or perhaps inbuilt in all living organism. Any living organism tries best to keep alive and the power behind that motive is yet to be answered! Once medical science gets this answer there may not be any death. Let's keep apart the biological power that keeps up alive and rather focus on the social power that kept us fearing the death all our life. You will surprise to learn that the inherent selfish nature of human being has given birth to this fear theory. Man does everything for himself. It really does not matter what kind of man you are. If you are helping others you are doing so because you want to feel good about it. So we do everything whatever makes us feel good knowingly or unknowingly. From here the theory of whatever makes us feel good should be loved and whatever makes us feel bad either should be hated or feared. Although the death brings so much good about the person of is dying, it was termed to be bad as the Man survived by the death does not feel good about it.
The ultimate freedom
Death sometimes symbolizes end of something. However, in reality it's not the end of life it's beginning of freedom. In modern world we talk a lot about freedom but do we have freedom from life? do we have freedom from joy, sorrow, good , evil? All our life we struggle to find the freedom from various feelings. Basically everyone wants attain a the state of joy or bliss; the complete concept of spirituality is based on the fact that if you follow the spiritual path you are guaranteed to get to the state of joy. Millions of theories are there to tell you the path or ways to reach or experience the ultimate truth. Some even claim to have experienced the ultimate truth, however, non of their theory seems to be quite convincing. The very first question arises what do they mean by "the truth"? Is everything else is false in the real world? or they are tagging a completely "false" experience as truth so that people keep following them. I am not sure though, it looks more of a selling point rather than being some "real truth".
Most spiritual leader repetitively state that death is the real truth, then why do they preach to live? They say that birth and death is just a cycle and we need to follow? it raised another question to our concept of freedom. Do we have freedom to break that cycle? or chose at which end of the cycle we want to stay put. Some say that living life your own way is the true freedom, however, are we really free even during living our own life? we are more entangled by subtle feelings and desires that most of the time we don't know where they are taking us. We born and start the rat race till the end and what is the end? its death! So eventually from the day we born the end goal of all of us is to die. Then why to fear that very feeling? Life is anyways going to ditch us one day death is the ultimate truth that will remain forever, death is eternal not the life. If that is the case then why you don't have to right to die?
